Name: Poise - AI Dating Coach
Author: Poise

Bisexual men often feel invisible—too gay for straight spaces, too straight for gay spaces. Dating apps can amplify this. Feeld, with its open-minded positioning, offers possibilities—but also has its own challenges.

Here's how to navigate Feeld as a bisexual man.

The Bi Male Experience on Feeld

What Makes Feeld Different

Compared to mainstream apps:

Explicitly welcomes bi users
Less heteronormative culture
ENM community often bi-friendly
More options for expressing identity

Compared to gay apps:

More gender diversity
Less hook-up focused (generally)
Women present (for bi men who want that)
Different community vibe

The User Base

Who you'll find:

Bi-curious men
Out bi men
Women open to bi partners
Couples (many seeking bi men)
Queer people broadly

Common Challenges

Bi men specifically face:

Biphobia from some women
Stigma in gay spaces too
Fetishization by some couples
Having to explain/prove bisexuality
Assumptions about promiscuity

Profile Strategy

Being Out in Your Profile

Disclosure options:

Sexuality setting: Bisexual
Mention in bio explicitly
Implied through "looking for"
Private until conversation

Being explicit helps:

Filters biphobic matches early
Attracts bi-friendly people
Normalizes bi visibility
Saves time explaining

Bio Approaches

Direct and proud:

"Bi man, out and comfortable with it. Looking for genuine connections with people who appreciate all of who I am."

Casual mention:

"Into hiking, cooking experiments, and connecting with interesting people of all genders. Bi and poly."

Addressing it proactively:

"Yes, I'm bi. No, that doesn't mean I can't commit or that I'll cheat. Looking for someone who gets that."

What You're Seeking

Clarify:

Who you want to match with
What kind of connections
Your relationship structure
What you're open to

Settings:

Show to all genders (if seeking broadly)
Or specific to what you want now
Couple visibility as preferred

Navigating Different Matches

With Women

Challenges:

Some women are biphobic
May assume things about you
Questions about "how bi" you are
Insecurity about attraction to men

Finding bi-friendly women:

Queer women often understand
Women in ENM often more open
Those with bi experience
Look for inclusive language in profiles

How to screen:

Mention being bi early
See how they respond
Ask about their views
Don't hide to avoid rejection

With Men

Challenges:

Gay men sometimes dismiss bi men
Assumed to be closeted or confused
May be seeking only certain things
Different app dynamics than Grindr

Making connections:

Many bi and gay men on Feeld
Often seeking more than hookups
Community can be supportive
Be clear about what you want

With Couples

The reality:

Many couples actively seek bi men
Can be genuine or fetishizing
Often for MFM or threesome scenarios
Your choice how to engage

If interested in couples:

Ensure both partners are genuinely interested
Clear communication about expectations
Watch for unicorn-hunter red flags
You're a person, not an accessory

If not interested:

Filter them out
Clear bio statement
Quick unmatch if they slip through

Common Questions You'll Get

"So you're really bi?"

Response options:

"Yep, fully attracted to multiple genders. It's pretty simple actually."

Or:

"Is that something you're asking because you have concerns, or just curiosity?"

"Have you been with men/women?"

Your choice to answer:

"I don't think my history is relevant to whether we connect, but yes, I've dated various genders."

Or:

"That's pretty personal for a first conversation. What made you curious?"

"Won't you miss men/women?"

Addressing the assumption:

"Do you miss other women when you're dating one person? Same concept. Bi doesn't mean I need everyone."

"Are you really looking for a relationship?"

Countering the stereotype:

"Absolutely. Bisexuality is about who I'm attracted to, not how I date. I'm looking for something real."

Building Confidence as a Bi Man

Owning Your Identity

Helpful mindsets:

Your sexuality is valid regardless of dating history
You don't need to prove anything
The right people will appreciate all of you
Biphobia is their problem, not yours

Finding Community

Support through:

Bi-specific groups and events
LGBTQ+ community broadly
Online bi communities
Finding bi friends

Dealing with Rejection

When rejected for being bi:

It's a filter—they weren't right
Better to know early
Saves time for better matches
Their loss

ENM and Being Bi

Why Bi Men Often Thrive in ENM

ENM can offer:

Freedom to explore different attractions
Less pressure on one relationship to meet all needs
Community that understands fluidity
Partners who embrace full identity

Specific Configurations

What bi men in ENM might explore:

Primary with one gender, casual with others
Multiple partners of different genders
Couples together and separately
Whatever configuration works

Communication with Partners

If partnered:

Be honest about attraction to multiple genders
Discuss what ENM means for this
Address any insecurities
Celebrate rather than hide this part of you

Safety and Discretion

If Not Fully Out

Feeld allows:

Privacy settings
Photo control
Profile visibility settings
Anonymous browsing (premium)

Considerations:

Who might see you on the app
Photo recognizability
What info you share
Your comfort level

Staying Safe

Standard precautions:

Meet in public first
Tell someone about dates
Trust your instincts
Don't share too much early

Making Feeld Work for You

Success Factors

What helps:

Complete, honest profile
Clear about what you're seeking
Filtering out biphobic matches early
Engaging with open-minded community
Patience with the process

Setting Realistic Expectations

Understand:

Dating pool may be smaller
Some rejection based on identity
Finding your people takes time
Quality over quantity matters

When to Use Other Apps

Supplement with:

Grindr/Scruff (for men)
OkCupid (bi-friendly mainstream)
Tinder (broader reach)
Based on what you're seeking

FAQ

Should I mention being bi in my first message? Not necessarily, but don't hide it. If it's in your profile, they can see it. Bring it up naturally if it's relevant.

Why do some women reject bi men? Biphobia exists, often rooted in stereotypes about cheating, AIDS, or masculinity. It's their issue, and you've filtered out someone incompatible.

Is Feeld good for bi men? Better than many apps for visibility and community, though not without challenges. The ENM focus means more sexually open and often more bi-accepting users.

How do I find bi-friendly partners? Look for inclusive language in profiles, queer identity markers, ENM experience, and positive responses when you mention being bi.

Related Guides

Your Identity Is an Asset

The right people will appreciate that you know yourself. Poise helps you connect authentically—finding people who embrace all of who you are.

Feeld for Bisexual Men: Navigating the App (2026)