Name: Poise - AI Dating Coach
Author: Poise

Feeld markets itself as the app for the open-minded—but what's it actually like for queer women? The experience differs significantly from straight users and even from other queer dating apps.

Here's an honest look at using Feeld as a queer woman in 2026.

The Feeld Landscape for Queer Women

What You'll Find

The user base includes:

Queer women seeking women
Bi/pan women exploring
Women in ENM relationships
Couples (yes, many couples)
Non-binary people
Trans women

The reality:

Smaller pool than mainstream apps
Higher concentration of ENM/poly folks
More sexually open profiles
Couples seeking "thirds" are common
Quality can be higher than quantity

Setting Your Preferences

Feeld allows:

Showing your profile to specific genders
Setting who you want to see
Multiple sexuality options
Clear relationship status display

For queer women:

Set to see women (and non-binary if interested)
Decide on couples visibility (can hide them)
Be explicit about what you're seeking
Use bio to clarify further

Common Challenges

The Couple Question

Reality check:

Many couples seek queer women
"Unicorn hunting" is real
Even with filters, couples appear
Can feel objectifying

How to handle:

Use filters to reduce couple visibility
Clear bio statement if not interested
Don't feel obligated to respond
Some couples are genuinely great—your call

If you're open to couples:

Look for equal engagement from both
Watch for red flags
Ensure both actually want this
Set clear expectations

Smaller Dating Pool

Depending on location:

Major cities: reasonable selection
Smaller areas: limited options
May see same profiles repeatedly
Can feel discouraging

What helps:

Patience
Expanding radius (if possible)
Using multiple apps
Quality over quantity mindset

Men in Your Stack

Despite settings:

Some men still appear
Couples with men show up
Can be frustrating
Reporting helps

What to do:

Report inappropriate appearances
Swipe left and move on
Adjust settings if needed
Don't let it discourage you

Profile Optimization for WLW

Photos That Work

Good choices:

Clear face shots
Full body photos
Photos showing your style/vibe
Activities and interests
Genuine expressions

Consider:

Photos that signal queerness (if you want)
Avoiding heavy filters
Showing personality
Mix of posed and candid

Bio Strategy

Be clear about:

What you're seeking
Your relationship status
Whether you're open to couples (or not)
What you're NOT looking for

Example bios:

For WLW only:

"Queer woman seeking connections with women and non-binary folks only. Not interested in couples or men. Let's talk about books, hiking, and your latest obsession."

Open to more:

"Bi woman in an open relationship. Looking for genuine connections with women—dates, friendship, maybe more. My partner is not involved in my dating."

Using Desires

Select desires that:

Reflect your actual interests
Help matching
Signal what you're seeking
Don't misrepresent you

Navigating Conversations

Common Openers You'll Receive

From women:

Usually more thoughtful
Reference your profile
Can still be awkward
Quality varies

From couples:

Often generic
"We think you're cute"
May feel objectifying
Some are genuine

Opening Conversations

Good approaches:

Reference something specific in their profile
Ask about shared interests
Show genuine curiosity
Be yourself

Example:

"Your photos from that hiking trip look amazing—where was that? I've been trying to find good trails near the city."

Moving Forward

Queer women dating can be:

Slower to progress (sometimes)
More communicative
Less aggressive
Sometimes stuck in "talking" phase

Keep momentum:

Suggest meeting when interest is clear
Don't endless text
Be direct about interest
Take initiative

ENM-Specific Considerations

If You're Partnered

On Feeld:

Be clear about your status
Explain your relationship structure
Don't hide your partner
Be honest about what you can offer

What to disclose:

That you have a partner
Whether they're involved
What you're seeking
Your available time/energy

Dating Other Partnered Women

Consider:

Their relationship structure
Scheduling complexity
Metamour situations
Long-term potential (or not)

Questions to ask:

"What does your partner know about this?"
"What are you looking for?"
"How does your ENM work?"

Safety Considerations

Vetting Matches

For queer women:

Check for authentic profiles
Video chat before meeting if uncertain
Trust your instincts
Be wary of too-good-to-be-true

Red flags:

Pushing to meet immediately
Unwilling to video chat
Inconsistent information
Pressure around anything

Meeting Up

Standard safety:

Public place first
Tell someone where you're going
Have your own transportation
Trust your gut

Queer-specific:

Consider visibility/safety in your area
Choose comfortable venues
Be aware of environment

Making Feeld Work for You

Mindset Shifts

Helpful perspectives:

Quality over quantity
Patience with smaller pool
Appreciation for open-minded space
Not taking it personally when it's slow

Maximizing Success

What works:

Complete, thoughtful profile
Active engagement
Patience with the process
Clear communication
Taking initiative

When Feeld Isn't Enough

Supplement with:

Her or other WLW apps
Queer social events
Community involvement
Other dating apps

What Makes Feeld Unique for Queer Women

The Positives

Feeld offers:

Open-minded user base
Less heteronormative
ENM-friendly space
Sexual openness normalized
Good for exploration

The Tradeoffs

But also:

Couples can be overwhelming
Smaller user base
App can be buggy
Not exclusively queer space

Is It Right for You?

Feeld works best if you:

Are ENM or poly (or curious)
Want sexually open dating
Are patient with smaller pools
Can navigate couple inquiries
Value quality over quantity

FAQ

Is Feeld better than Her for queer women? Different purposes. Her is exclusively WLW with larger user base. Feeld is better for ENM/poly and more sexually explicit. Many use both.

How do I stop seeing couples? Use the filter settings to hide couples. Some may still appear. Clear bio statement helps too.

Is Feeld safe for queer women? As safe as any dating app. Standard precautions apply. The user base tends to be more progressive.

Why do I see so few matches? Smaller user base for WLW, especially outside major cities. Try expanding radius, being patient, or supplementing with other apps.

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Find Your People

Feeld may have its challenges, but it's also a space where queer women can be open about what they want. Poise can help you connect authentically—with messages that reflect who you really are.

Feeld for Queer Women: Tips and Expectations (2026)