Name: Poise - AI Dating Coach
Author: Poise

One of the biggest concerns people have about joining Feeld is privacy. Will your Facebook friends see you? Will coworkers find your profile? Will that person you definitely don't want to explain your dating life to discover you're exploring ENM?

These are valid concerns, especially since Feeld historically used Facebook for login. This guide explains exactly how Feeld handles privacy, what your Facebook friends can and can't see, and how to maximize your discretion on the app.

Can Facebook Friends See You on Feeld?

The short answer: Not through Facebook itself. But they could find you on Feeld if you're both users.

Let's break this down:

What Facebook Can't See

Feeld doesn't post to your Facebook
Your Feeld activity never appears on Facebook
Facebook friends can't see you're on Feeld through Facebook
Your Feeld matches, messages, and activity are private

What Facebook Friends Might See

If a friend is also on Feeld, they could see your profile while browsing
This has nothing to do with Facebook—it's just both of you being on the same app
You appear to them the same way you'd appear to any stranger

The risk isn't Facebook integration—it's simply that other people you know might also use Feeld.

Does Feeld Still Require Facebook?

Historically, Feeld required Facebook login. This has changed:

Current login options:

Apple ID
Google account
Phone number
Email (in some regions)
Facebook (optional, not required)

If you're concerned about Facebook connection, simply sign up with a different method. Using Apple or Google login gives you the same experience without any Facebook link.

If you already signed up with Facebook: You can continue using your account normally. Your Feeld profile is still not visible on Facebook. The Facebook login was only for verification.

How to Maximize Privacy on Feeld

1. Use Incognito Mode (Majestic Feature)

Feeld's Incognito Mode is the most powerful privacy tool available. When enabled:

Your profile is hidden from everyone
You only appear to people YOU like first
You can browse without being seen
No one knows you're on the app unless you choose to reveal yourself

How it works:

Like someone's profile
Only then do they see you in their feed
If you don't like them, they never know you exist

The catch: Incognito Mode requires Feeld Majestic (premium). It's not available on free accounts.

For full details, see our Feeld Incognito guide.

2. Block Specific People

If there are specific people you want to avoid:

If you see them in your feed, tap the three dots
Select "Block" or "Hide"
They won't see you, and you won't see them

Proactive blocking: You can't pre-emptively block someone you haven't encountered. But if you match accidentally, you can unmatch and block before any conversation happens.

3. Use Separate Photos

One of the easiest ways to be recognized is using the same photos as your Instagram or Facebook. Consider:

Taking new photos specifically for dating apps
Using photos that aren't anywhere else online
Avoiding photos friends have seen on social media

This doesn't guarantee anonymity, but it reduces the chance of immediate recognition.

4. Don't Use Your Real Name in Bio

Feeld doesn't require your last name, and you can use a nickname or first initial. While you need real identity for account verification, your displayed name can be more private.

5. Be Thoughtful About Identifying Details

Your bio might contain details that make you identifiable:

Specific job title
Company name
Neighborhood you live in
Unique hobbies that people associate with you

Consider being slightly more general until you're comfortable with a match.

What If Someone You Know Finds You?

It happens. Someone you know might discover your Feeld profile. Here's how to handle it:

If They Don't Mention It

They probably feel as awkward as you do. Most people follow an unspoken rule: if we both see each other on a dating app, we pretend it didn't happen unless we both want to acknowledge it.

If They Do Mention It

Options:

Own it casually: "Yeah, I'm exploring some things. How about you?"
Deflect: "Oh, I made that ages ago. Forgot it existed."
Be direct: "I'd rather not discuss my dating life."

If You're Both Actually Interested

Swipe right and see what happens. Some of the best connections come from existing comfort.

If You Want to Avoid Future Encounters

Block them after seeing their profile. Neither of you will appear to each other again.

The Psychology of Privacy Concerns

Here's something worth considering: most people on Feeld are also worried about their own privacy. If someone from your life is on the app, they're probably not eager to tell others they saw you there—because that would reveal they're on Feeld too.

Mutual assured discretion is real. Everyone has an interest in keeping things private.

The exceptions are situations where someone has nothing to lose by exposing you (an ex, someone with a grudge). For those cases, Incognito Mode is your best protection.

Facebook Login: Should You Be Concerned?

If you signed up using Facebook, here's what Feeld actually accesses:

What Feeld gets from Facebook:

Your name and age (for verification)
Profile photo (as a starting photo)
That's basically it

What Feeld does NOT do:

Post on your timeline
Access your friends list for matching
Share your Feeld activity with Facebook
Allow Facebook to see your Feeld matches

The Facebook login is purely for identity verification. It doesn't create any connection between your Facebook social life and your Feeld dating life.

Alternative Sign-Up Methods

If you haven't joined yet or want to create a fresh account:

Apple ID (Recommended for Privacy)

Uses Apple's privacy-focused "Hide My Email" feature
Can create a unique email for Feeld
No connection to other accounts

Google Account

Quick and easy
Use a separate Google account if you want extra separation

Phone Number

Simple verification
No social media connection
Some anonymity

Email

Where available, the most separate option
Create a dedicated email for dating apps

Privacy Comparison: Feeld vs Other Apps

| Privacy Feature | Feeld | Tinder | Hinge | |-----------------|-------|--------|-------| | Incognito Mode | Yes (paid) | Yes (paid) | No | | Block Contacts | Yes | Yes | Yes | | Non-Facebook Login | Yes | Yes | Yes | | Doesn't Post to Social | Yes | Yes | Yes | | Hide from Specific People | Manual | Yes (block contacts) | Manual |

Feeld's privacy options are comparable to or better than mainstream apps, especially with Incognito Mode.

When You Really Need Maximum Privacy

For people who absolutely cannot be seen on a dating app (public figures, certain professions, specific personal situations):

Consider:

Incognito Mode - Only appear to people you choose
Separate photos - Nothing from your public life
Vague bio - No identifying details
Nickname - Don't use your common name
New email - Separate from personal accounts

Accept:

You can't be 100% invisible and also find matches
Some risk exists on any dating platform
If discovered, have a planned response ready

Alternatives:

Consider apps with built-in privacy features
Look for communities with in-person events instead
Ask trusted friends for introductions

Privacy Is Normal

Final thought: there's nothing wrong with wanting privacy on a dating app. You're not hiding something shameful—you're being appropriately careful about your personal life.

Most Feeld users share this concern. The app's privacy features exist because the community asked for them. Use them without guilt.

Ready to Connect, Privately?

Once you've got your privacy settings dialed in, the next challenge is actually connecting with people. Poise helps you write authentic messages and profiles that attract compatible matches—while you maintain the privacy level you're comfortable with.

Download Poise and start making real connections.

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