Name: Poise - AI Dating Coach
Author: Poise

Feeld's Incognito Mode is one of the most requested premium features—and one of the most misunderstood. If you're considering upgrading to Majestic specifically for Incognito, you want to know exactly what you're getting.

This guide breaks down how Incognito Mode works, its limitations, and whether it's worth the subscription price for your situation.

What Is Feeld Incognito Mode?

Incognito Mode is a privacy feature that makes your profile invisible to other users—unless you like them first.

In normal mode:

Everyone who matches your criteria can see your profile
You appear in their discover feed
They can like you, ping you, or pass on you
You have no control over who sees you

In Incognito Mode:

Nobody can see your profile initially
You browse completely invisibly
When you like someone, only then do they see you
People you don't like never know you exist

Think of it as browsing with a one-way mirror. You can see everyone; they can only see you if you choose to reveal yourself.

How Incognito Mode Works

Step 1: You Browse Invisibly

With Incognito enabled, you scroll through profiles like normal. But unlike normal mode, these people don't see your profile in their feed.

Step 2: You Like Someone

When you find someone interesting, you like them (or ping them).

Step 3: They Can Now See You

Your profile becomes visible to that specific person. They see you just like any other profile—they don't know you were in Incognito.

Step 4: Match or Not

If they like you back, you match. If they don't, they move on—but at least you chose to reveal yourself to them.

What They See

When you like someone from Incognito:

They see your full profile
They don't see an "Incognito user" label
They can't tell you were browsing invisibly
The experience is identical to a regular like

Who Should Use Incognito Mode?

Incognito is valuable for specific situations. Consider it if you:

Need Professional Discretion

Some jobs or industries make dating app visibility risky. If you're a teacher, therapist, public figure, or work in a conservative field, Incognito prevents accidental discovery by students, clients, or colleagues.

Live in a Small Community

In areas where "everyone knows everyone," Incognito lets you explore without the whole town knowing. You control who learns you're on the app.

Are Exploring ENM Privately

If you're in the early stages of exploring ethical non-monogamy—maybe before you've told certain people—Incognito lets you explore without premature exposure.

Have Specific People to Avoid

Maybe you don't want your ex, roommate, or ex-coworker to find you. Incognito means they can't unless you choose to appear to them.

Prefer to Control First Impressions

Some people like being the initiator. Incognito means you only appear to people you're already interested in, so every reveal is intentional.

Are Anxious About Being "Out There"

Dating app visibility can feel exposing. Incognito reduces that anxiety by giving you complete control over who sees you.

Who Doesn't Need Incognito Mode?

Incognito might not be worth it if you:

Don't Mind Being Visible

If you're openly on Feeld and don't care who knows, Incognito removes a discovery channel. Some of your best matches might come from people who found you first.

Want Maximum Exposure

Being visible means more people see your profile, which potentially means more matches. Incognito trades exposure for privacy.

Are in a Large, Anonymous City

In major metros where you're unlikely to encounter anyone you know, Incognito's benefit is reduced.

Are Already Open About ENM

If your friends, family, and coworkers already know about your relationship style, there's less to hide.

Just Want to Save Money

Incognito requires Majestic subscription. If it's your only reason to upgrade, consider whether the other premium features justify the cost. See our Feeld pricing breakdown.

Incognito Mode Limitations

Important things Incognito doesn't do:

You Still Appear to People You Like

Once you like someone, they see your full profile. Incognito isn't anonymity—it's selective visibility.

It Doesn't Hide You from Existing Connections

People you've already matched with can still see and message you. Incognito only affects discovery.

You Can't Receive First Moves

In Incognito, people can't like you first because they don't see you. If your strategy involves receiving interest rather than initiating, Incognito works against you.

Pings Are Less Effective

If you like using pings to stand out, Incognito means the ping is their first impression of you—not a way to escalate existing visibility.

It's Profile-Wide

You can't be Incognito to some people and visible to others (except through the like mechanism). It's all or nothing.

Incognito Mode vs. Blocking

How do these compare for avoiding specific people?

| Feature | Incognito Mode | Blocking | |---------|----------------|----------| | Cost | Majestic required | Free | | Scope | Everyone | Specific people | | Proactive | Yes | Requires seeing them first | | Reversible | Toggle on/off | Unblock anytime | | Best for | General privacy | Specific avoidance |

If you only need to avoid a few specific people: Blocking is free and effective.

If you need broad privacy from anyone potentially recognizing you: Incognito is the tool.

How to Enable Incognito Mode

Incognito is a Majestic (premium) feature. To use it:

Step 1: Subscribe to Majestic

You need an active premium subscription.

Step 2: Find the Setting

Go to your profile settings and look for Privacy or Incognito options.

Step 3: Toggle It On

Enable Incognito Mode. Your profile immediately becomes invisible.

Step 4: Browse Normally

Continue swiping and liking as usual. The only difference is you're invisible until you like someone.

Step 5: Toggle Off Anytime

You can switch Incognito off whenever you want more visibility.

Strategies for Using Incognito Effectively

Be More Active

Since people can't find you, you need to find them. Incognito users should swipe more actively to maintain match flow.

Like Generously

In normal mode, you might wait to see if someone likes you first. In Incognito, that never happens. Like everyone you're curious about.

Use Pings Well

Since your first appearance is when you like them, a ping can make that first impression stronger. Consider pinging profiles you're especially interested in.

Check Regularly

Because you're invisible, opportunities don't come to you. Daily app activity is more important in Incognito than in visible mode.

Consider Toggling

You don't have to stay in Incognito permanently. Consider:

Incognito on weekdays (when colleagues might browse)
Visible on weekends (to maximize matches)
Incognito when traveling (to explore without commitment)

Is Incognito Worth Paying For?

Yes, if:

Professional discretion is genuinely important
You're exploring ENM privately
You live somewhere small where visibility is risky
Anxiety about being "seen" is blocking you from using the app
You have disposable income for app subscriptions

Probably not, if:

It's your only reason to upgrade
You're already openly on dating apps
You're in a large, anonymous metro
You want to receive interest, not just initiate
Budget is tight

The honest answer: Incognito is a nice-to-have privacy feature, but for most people, it's not essential. The more impactful Majestic feature is "See Who Liked You," which helps regardless of privacy concerns.

Combining Incognito with Other Privacy Measures

For maximum privacy, combine Incognito with:

Unique photos not used elsewhere online
Vague bio details that don't identify you specifically
Non-Facebook login (Apple ID, phone number)
Nickname instead of your common name
Quick blocking if you encounter someone to avoid

See our full Feeld Facebook privacy guide for more.

Ready to Date on Your Terms?

Incognito gives you control over who sees you. But what you say in your profile and messages still determines whether those connections become something real. Poise helps you write authentically and connect effectively—on your terms.

Download Poise and make every reveal count.