Using Feeld to Find Kink-Friendly Friends (2026)
Not everyone on Feeld is looking for romance or sex. Here's how to use Feeld to find friends in the kink and ENM communities.
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Sometimes you need friends who understand your lifestyle—people who get ENM, kink, or alternative relationships without needing explanation. Feeld can be a surprising place to find community.
Here's how to use Feeld for friendship.
Why Feeld for Friendship?
Finding Your People
Feeld users often:
- Understand alternative lifestyles
- Share open-minded values
- Can relate to your experiences
- Don't need the basics explained
Community Building
Benefits:
- People who get ENM/poly
- Friends who understand kink
- No judgment
- Shared language and experience
Beyond Dating
Sometimes you need:
- Friends to process with
- Community connection
- People who relate
- Social circle that understands
Profile Setup for Friendship
Being Clear
State in your profile:
- You're open to friendship
- What kind of friends you're seeking
- That it doesn't have to be romantic/sexual
- Why you're seeking community
Examples:
- "Also happy to make friends who understand ENM life"
- "Looking for community as much as connection"
- "Open to genuine friendship with like-minded people"
What to Include
Show:
- Your interests and hobbies
- What you're about beyond dating
- Shared activities you'd enjoy
- Your community values
Finding Friendship Matches
Who Might Be Open
Look for:
- Profiles mentioning friendship
- Community-minded people
- Those active in the scene
- People who seem like good humans
Approaching for Friendship
Be upfront:
- "I noticed we have a lot in common—I'm actually more interested in finding friends who get this lifestyle than dating right now. Would you be open to that?"
- Clear that you're seeking friendship
- Not bait-and-switch
When Dating Isn't a Fit But Friendship Is
Sometimes:
- No romantic chemistry
- But you really like them
- Friendship might work
- Can transition if both want
Friendship Conversation
Different Than Dating
Friendship chat:
- Less flirty, more casual
- Shared interests focus
- Getting to know each other
- Not building toward romance
Activities to Suggest
Friend hangouts:
- Coffee or drinks
- Events you'd both enjoy
- Munches or community gatherings
- Shared hobby activities
Building Platonic Connection
Develop by:
- Regular conversation
- Shared experiences
- Supportive check-ins
- Being a good friend
Types of Kink-Friendly Friendships
Activity Partners
Friends for:
- Going to events together
- Kink education (workshops, classes)
- Community activities
- Shared scene involvement
Processing Friends
Someone who:
- Understands your relationship structure
- Can hear about your dating life
- Gets the challenges
- Offers relevant perspective
Community Friends
Building:
- Local scene connections
- Poly/ENM social circle
- People who get it
- Your community network
Navigating Friendship on a Dating App
Setting Clear Expectations
Be explicit:
- This is friendship
- Not dating that might lead somewhere
- Genuinely platonic
- Unless you both discuss otherwise
When They Want More
If they're interested romantically:
- Be clear about your intentions
- Don't lead them on
- Friendship has to work for both
- It's okay to step back
When You Want More
If feelings develop:
- Be honest with yourself
- Communicate if appropriate
- Accept their boundaries
- Can't force romance
Benefits of Kink/ENM Friends
Understanding
They get:
- Why you live this way
- The challenges you face
- Terminology and concepts
- What you don't need to explain
Support
They can:
- Celebrate your wins
- Support through challenges
- Offer relevant advice
- Be there without judgment
Community
Building network of:
- Like-minded people
- Social connections
- Support system
- Your people
FAQ
Is it weird to use Feeld for friendship? Not at all. Many people seek community alongside (or instead of) dating. Be clear about your intentions.
What if they think I want to date? Be explicit from the start that you're seeking friendship. Reiterate if needed. Clear communication prevents misunderstanding.
Can friendships become romantic later? Sometimes—if both people want that. But don't approach friendship as backdoor to dating.
Where else can I find kink/ENM friends? Munches, FetLife events, poly meetups, community gatherings. Feeld is one avenue among many.
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