Name: Poise - AI Dating Coach
Author: Poise

If your Feeld experience isn't matching your expectations, the problem might be your profile. Before blaming the algorithm or the dating pool, run through this comprehensive audit.

Photo Audit

Primary Photo Checklist

Your first photo should:

[ ] Clearly show your face
[ ] Have good lighting (natural light preferred)
[ ] Be recent (within last year)
[ ] Show you looking approachable
[ ] Be high quality (not blurry or pixelated)
[ ] Have you as the clear subject (not crowded)
[ ] Represent how you actually look now

Red flags to remove:

Sunglasses hiding your eyes
Group photos where you're not obvious
Filters that distort your appearance
Very old photos
Bathroom selfies with poor lighting

Photo Lineup (All Photos)

Your full set should include:

[ ] At least 4-6 photos total
[ ] Mix of close-ups and full body
[ ] At least one showing your genuine smile
[ ] Photos showing interests/personality
[ ] Different contexts (not all same location/outfit)
[ ] At least one photo that shows what you actually look like

Balance check:

Not all selfies
Not all professional shots
Shows different sides of you
Tells a story about your life

Photo Quality Standards

Technical requirements:

[ ] In focus
[ ] Good lighting
[ ] High resolution
[ ] Properly cropped
[ ] No watermarks or timestamps

Photo Content Check

Ask yourself:

Would I swipe right on this person?
Do these photos show my personality?
Is there conversation-starter content?
Am I proud to show these?

Bio Audit

Content Checklist

Your bio should include:

[ ] Who you are (basic identity)
[ ] What you're looking for
[ ] Something specific and memorable
[ ] Conversation hooks
[ ] Genuine personality

Your bio should NOT include:

[ ] Just "ask me" or "just ask"
[ ] Only negative statements (no lists of what you don't want)
[ ] Clichés everyone uses
[ ] Nothing at all (blank bio)
[ ] Wall of text with no breaks

Tone Check

Ask yourself:

Does it sound like me?
Is it approachable?
Does it invite response?
Is there warmth?
Would I want to message this person?

Length Check

Ideal bio:

Not too short (gives nothing to work with)
Not too long (overwhelming)
3-5 short paragraphs or equivalent
Easy to read quickly
Has visual breaks

Specificity Check

Avoid generic:

"I like music and travel"
"Looking for someone genuine"
"Just seeing what's out there"

Be specific:

"Currently obsessed with [specific thing]"
"Looking for [specific dynamic]"
"Excited to meet people who [specific interest]"

Desires Audit

Selection Review

Are your desires:

[ ] Accurately representing what you want?
[ ] Not so many it seems unfocused?
[ ] Not so few it seems limited?
[ ] Appropriate for what you're seeking?
[ ] Helpful for finding compatible people?

Strategic Considerations

Think about:

Do these desires attract who you want?
Are there dealbreaker desires missing?
Are there desires listed that might turn off ideal matches?
Is the selection consistent with your bio?

Relationship Status Audit

Accuracy Check

Verify:

[ ] Current relationship status accurate
[ ] Partner linked (if applicable)
[ ] What you're looking for is clear
[ ] No conflicting information

Linked Profile Review

If coupled:

Is your partner's profile also optimized?
Do your profiles tell a consistent story?
Is it clear what you're seeking together vs. individually?

Settings Audit

Visibility Settings

Check:

[ ] Location is correct
[ ] Distance setting appropriate for your area
[ ] Age range reasonable
[ ] Gender preferences accurate
[ ] Incognito mode off (if you want visibility)

Account Health

Verify:

[ ] Profile verified (if option available)
[ ] Photos approved
[ ] No warnings on account
[ ] Email confirmed

Red Flag Check (What to Remove)

Remove From Photos

[ ] Photos with exes cropped out obviously
[ ] Every photo being a mirror selfie
[ ] Photos where you look angry or bored
[ ] Heavily filtered or face-tuned images
[ ] Photos of just your car/motorcycle/possessions
[ ] Group photos where unclear which person is you

Remove From Bio

[ ] Long lists of requirements or dealbreakers
[ ] Negativity ("don't message if...")
[ ] Passive-aggressive statements
[ ] References to bad past experiences
[ ] Inside jokes no one will understand
[ ] TMI about kinks right in the bio (save for desires)

Remove These Approaches

[ ] Being vague about what you want
[ ] Seeming like you're not actually interested in meeting
[ ] Bio that's all about your partner (for coupled people)
[ ] Treating the profile like a resume

Optimization by Goal

If You Want More Matches

Focus on:

Lead photo quality (biggest impact)
Bio that invites engagement
Completing all profile sections
Broader desires selection

If You Want Better Quality Matches

Focus on:

Being specific about what you want
Showing personality clearly
Filtering through selectivity
Clear communication of your situation

If You Want Different Matches

Consider:

Are you attracting who you want to attract?
What does your profile communicate?
Who would be drawn to this profile?
What changes would attract different people?

The Outside Perspective Test

Get Feedback

Ask trusted friends:

What vibe do you get from this profile?
What kind of person do you think this is?
What would you assume they're looking for?
Would you swipe right? Why or why not?

Fresh Eyes

Or do it yourself:

Step away from your profile for a few days
Come back and look at it as if seeing for the first time
What stands out?
What's missing?

Common Profile Mistakes

Mistake 1: The Blank Slate

Problem: Minimal bio, few photos, nothing to work with Impact: No reason to swipe right or start conversation Fix: Add substance in both photos and bio

Mistake 2: The Negative Nancy

Problem: Bio full of "don't message if" and complaints Impact: Seems bitter, unapproachable Fix: Focus on what you DO want, not what you don't

Mistake 3: The Mystery

Problem: So vague that no one knows what you're looking for Impact: Only desperate people swipe; others don't bother Fix: Be clear and specific about intentions

Mistake 4: The Overseller

Problem: Too long, too much, trying too hard Impact: Overwhelming, seems desperate Fix: Edit down, leave some mystery, be confident

Mistake 5: The Catfish

Problem: Photos don't represent current reality Impact: Disappointment on both sides when meeting Fix: Use recent, accurate photos

Post-Audit Action Plan

Immediate Changes

Do today:

Remove any obviously bad photos
Fix major bio issues
Update outdated information
Check settings are correct

Short-Term Improvements

This week:

Take new photos if needed
Rewrite bio with audit insights
Get feedback from trusted source
Review desires selection

Ongoing Maintenance

Regular check-ins:

Review profile monthly
Update photos periodically
Refresh bio when it feels stale
Track what's working/not working

FAQ

How often should I update my profile? Major updates every few months, small tweaks as needed. If you're not getting results, update sooner.

Should I completely overhaul or make small changes? If fundamentally not working, overhaul. If it's working somewhat, try small changes and track impact.

How do I know if changes helped? Track your experience before and after—match rate, conversation quality, dates happening.

What's the single most important thing to fix? Your primary photo. It determines whether anyone sees the rest of your profile.

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