What NOT to Put in Your Feeld Profile (2026)

Some profile elements seem like good ideas but actually hurt your results. Before you write "I'm an open book, just ask!" or post that bathroom selfie, read this.

Here's what NOT to put in your Feeld profile.

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Photos to Avoid

The Bathroom Selfie

Why it's bad:

• Poor lighting
• Unflattering environment
• Suggests low effort
• Toilet in background is not sexy

Instead: Get someone to take a photo of you, or use a timer in better lighting.

Every Photo Is a Selfie

Why it's bad:

• One-dimensional view
• No context about your life
• Suggests you don't have anyone to take your photo
• Can look vain

Instead: Mix of selfies and photos others took of you.

Heavily Filtered/FaceTuned Photos

Why it's bad:

• Doesn't look like you
• Sets up disappointment
• Suggests insecurity
• People want to know what you actually look like

Instead: Light editing is fine; distorting your features isn't.

Old Photos

Why it's bad:

• Misleading about current appearance
• People feel catfished when they meet you
• Starts connection with dishonesty
• You look better now anyway (probably)

Instead: Photos from the last year, ideally last few months.

Group Photos Where You're Unclear

Why it's bad:

• They don't know which one you are
• Makes them work too hard
• Confusing first impression
• Might think you're the wrong person

Instead: If using group photos, you should be obviously the subject, or label yourself.

Photos With Exes Obviously Cropped

Why it's bad:

• Reminds people of your past relationships
• Looks low effort
• Residual arm around you is awkward
• Get new photos

Instead: Take fresh photos without having to crop someone out.

Only Professional Photos

Why it's bad:

• Can seem fake or like a modeling portfolio
• People want to see real you
• Comes across as trying too hard
• No candid personality showing

Instead: Mix professional with casual, authentic shots.

Photos of Just Your Body

Why it's bad:

• Suggests you're hiding your face
• Can seem like a catfish
• Only works if you have face photos too
• People want connection, not just bodies

Instead: If including body photos, also show your face clearly in other photos.

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Bio Red Flags

"Just Ask"

Why it's bad:

• Puts all effort on them
• Gives nothing to work with
• Lazy
• Why should they ask when others give them something?

Instead: Give them something to ask about. Share actual information.

"I'm Bad at Writing Bios"

Why it's bad:

• Self-deprecating in an unhelpful way
• Still tells them nothing
• Not charming, just low effort
• Many people say this

Instead: Just write something. Anything is better than meta-commentary about not writing.

Long Lists of Requirements

Why it's bad:

• Comes across as demanding
• Focuses on negatives
• Makes you seem difficult
• People who meet requirements might still be turned off

Instead: State what you want positively, not as a checklist to pass.

"Don't Message Me If..."

Why it's bad:

• Negativity is unattractive
• Focusing on what you don't want
• Creates hostile energy
• The people you're warning off won't read it anyway

Instead: Focus on what you DO want. "I'm looking for people who [positive trait]."

Bitterness About Past Experiences

Why it's bad:

• Red flag for unprocessed issues
• Brings baggage into new connections
• Negativity is repellent
• Makes people worried you'll be difficult

Instead: Process your baggage elsewhere. Present your current, hopeful self.

Inside Jokes No One Gets

Why it's bad:

• Alienates everyone who isn't in on it
• Seems like you're not really trying to connect
• Confusing
• Wasted space

Instead: Be accessible. Inside jokes are for after you've connected.

Just Quotes or Lyrics

Why it's bad:

• Tells them nothing about YOU
• Many people use the same quotes
• Lazy
• Who are you behind the quote?

Instead: Use your own words. Or if using a quote, add context about why it matters to you.

"Looking for the Jim to My Pam"

Why it's bad:

• Overused
• Assumes shared cultural references
• Generic
• Says nothing specific about what you want

Instead: Be specific about what you're actually looking for.

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Approach Mistakes

Being Vague About What You Want

Why it's bad:

• Attracts everyone = attracts no one well
• Wastes time with mismatches
• Seems like you don't know yourself
• "Just seeing what's out there" is aimless

Instead: Be clear. "I'm looking for [specific type of connection]."

Seeming Unavailable

Why it's bad:

• "Super busy, rarely on here" = why bother?
• Mixed signals about whether you want to connect
• People won't invest in someone who won't invest back
• If you're too busy to date, why are you on a dating app?

Instead: If you're on Feeld, be actually available for connections.

Being Overly Sexual in Main Bio

Why it's bad:

• Feeld has desires for this
• Can seem one-dimensional
• Turns off people looking for connection
• Attracts people only interested in one thing

Instead: Save explicit content for desires or later conversation. Bio should show you're a full person.

Bragging or Showing Off

Why it's bad:

• Comes across as insecure
• Not humble
• "I own a [fancy car/house/job]" = trying to buy attraction
• Confidence is attractive; arrogance isn't

Instead: Let your qualities show naturally without explicit bragging.

Self-Deprecation Overload

Why it's bad:

• Drains confidence energy
• They might believe you
• Humor is fine; genuine putting yourself down isn't
• "You probably won't be interested, but..." = self-fulfilling prophecy

Instead: Present yourself positively. You have value; show it.

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Desire Mistakes

Selecting Everything

Why it's bad:

• Means nothing
• Seems desperate or undiscerning
• Dilutes compatibility signals
• You're probably not actually into everything

Instead: Select only things you genuinely want.

Selecting Nothing

Why it's bad:

• Wastes the feature
• Gives no compatibility information
• Seems like you didn't bother
• Missed conversation starters

Instead: Take time to select relevant desires.

Misleading Desires

Why it's bad:

• Attracts people you're not compatible with
• Wastes everyone's time
• Starts connection with mismatch
• They'll find out eventually

Instead: Be honest about what you're actually into.

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General Mistakes

All Negatives, No Positives

Why it's bad:

• Creates pessimistic impression
• Seems like you're not excited about dating
• Repels positive energy
• Attracts people who bond over complaints

Instead: Lead with what you want, enjoy, and offer.

Too Much, Too Soon

Why it's bad:

• Overwhelming
• Save some for conversation
• Wall of text is hard to read
• Leave some mystery

Instead: Be substantive but concise. They can learn more in conversation.

Nothing at All

Why it's bad:

• Zero reason to swipe right
• Seems like you're not serious
• Nothing to message about
• Why would they invest if you won't?

Instead: Fill out your profile. It matters.

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The Test

Before Posting, Ask

For photos:

• Would I be happy if this is how they picture me?
• Does this represent who I am now?
• Would I swipe right on this person?

For bio:

• Would I message this person?
• Does this sound like me?
• Is there something to respond to?

For desires:

• Are these actually what I want?
• Do they give useful compatibility information?
• Would I be happy matching with someone who has these same desires?

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FAQ

Is any of this actually that important? Yes. First impressions matter on dating apps. People make decisions in seconds.

What if I think these "mistakes" are authentic to me? Some authenticity is worth showing; some is better shared after you've connected. Strategic presentation isn't being fake.

Won't the right person like me anyway? They can't like you if they don't swipe. Get the right people's attention first.

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Related Guides

• The Complete Feeld Profile Audit Checklist
• Feeld Profile Tips for Women
• Feeld Profile Tips for Couples

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Know What Works

Avoiding these mistakes gives you an edge. Poise can help with what comes next—turning that improved profile into real conversations.